Wednesday, October 31, 2012
"THE PATH TO GREATNESS IS FOUND IN SERVING OTHERS"

Matthew 20:20-28
by: Sis. Diane Leonardo

 
Dwight Lyman Moody (1837-1899) was an American evangelist who founded the Northfield Schools in Massachusetts, Moody Church and Moody Bible Institute in Chicago, and the Colportage Association.  I would like to share an interesting story involving this great man of God.
 
A large group of European Pastors came to one of D.L. Moody's Northfield Bible conferences in Massachusetts in the late 1800s. Following the European custom of the time, each guest put his shoes outside his room to be cleaned by the hall servants overnight. But of course this was America and there were no hall servants.
 
Walking the dormitory halls that night, Moody saw the shoes and determined not to embarrass his brothers. He mentioned the need to some ministerial students who were there but met with only silence or pious excuses. Moody returned to the dorm, gathered up the shoes.  And, alone in his room, the world's only famous evangelist began to clean and polish the shoes. Only the unexpected arrival of a friend in the midst of the work revealed the secret.
 
When the foreign visitors opened the doors the next morning, their shoes were polished. They never know by whom. Moody told no one, but his friend told a few people, and during the rest of the conference, different men volunteers to shine the shoes in secret. Perhaps the episode is a vital insight into why God used D. L. Moody as He did. He was a man with a servants' heart and was the basis of his true greatness. (Gary Inrig, A Call to Excellence, (Victor Brooks, a division of SP Publ., Wheaton, III; 1985), p.98)
 
In Matthew 20:20-28, we will learn important things that we should know in order to achieve true greatness. To achieve true greatness we will consider 3 points:
 
Point # 1. Faith Should Not Be Mingled with Great Selfishness (verse 20-21)
 

 20 Then the wife of Zebedee came to Jesus with her two sons, bowed before him, and asked him for a favor. The wife of Zebedee is Salome, the sister of Mary who is the mother of Jesus which would make Jesus a cousin of James and John, their sons James and John, along with Peter, were Jesus closest friends among the twelve disciples. Perhaps James and John asked their mother to make the request for them and because she loved them and desired great things for them, she came to Jesus one day asking for a favor.  21 What do you want? Jesus asked her. She answered; Promise me that these two sons of mine will sit at your right and your left when you are King.

 
She asked Jesus to promise her that James would sit in one side of Jesus' throne in heaven and John would sit on the other side. She knew that if Jesus was king in heaven and sit in the throne, whoever was sitting next to Him would have a very high place in the kingdom and would be very powerful and very popular. Their faith is mingled with great deal of selfishness because they wished to be put in the most important place.
 
In our prayer sometimes, we tend to just ask and ask things without waiting for God’s revelation. Knowingly, we are asking for something out of our own motives and interest. The wife of Zebedee obviously had another motives other than praising Jesus; it’s her sons’ positions.
 
Point # 2. Closeness to Christ Requires Willingness to Suffer with Him (verse 22-23)
 

 22 You don't know what you are asking for, Jesus answered the sons. Can you drink the cup of suffering that I am about to drink?  We can, they answered.

        
Jesus looked at Salome and addressed "you" to John and James directly. ("You" is plural in Greek) He told them that they are equally mistaken what it means to follow Jesus. They failed to understand that a position like that would come about by much pain and suffering. The "cup" refers to the suffering and crucifixion that Jesus will face. It is the cup of suffering in which Jesus died for the sins of sinners. The cup represents a way of life that is going to involve afflictions, trials, persecutions, suffering and ultimately death.
 
James and John are confident in their response "we can."(another translation “we are able”) They are willing to suffer but they assured that their suffering would lead to earthly power. Their request was inspired by what Jesus said earlier.
 

"I tell you the truth, at the renewal of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on 12 thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel." (Matthew 19:28)

 
They thought that Jesus was going to establish an earthly political kingdom soon and they wanted to be no. 1 and no. 2 in the kingdom.
 

23 You will indeed drink from my cup, Jesus told them,…

 
Jesus foretold that James and John could drink from the cup of suffering and James become the first martyr of the church (Acts 12:2) and John experience persecution and exile (Rev. 1:9)
 

…but I do not have the right to choose who will sit at my right and my left. These places belong to those for whom my Father has prepared them.

 
Jesus also told that he agrees with the Father. He says that assigning of place in the Kingdom is by the Father. Jesus was showing that he was under the authority of the Father. It was the Father alone who makes the disciples about leadership in heaven. The reward for who will sit on the throne is not granted as favors. They are for those who have maintained their commitment to Jesus in spite of severe trials.
 
Point # 3. Greatness Is Not a Matter of Authority and Control but Of Humility and Service  (verses 24-28)
 

24 When the other ten disciples heard about this, they became angry with the two brothers. 25 So Jesus called them all together and said, You know that the rulers of the heathen have power over them, and the leaders have complete authority. 26 This, however, is not the way it shall be among you. If one of you wants to be great, you must be the servant of the rest; 27 and if one of you wants to be first, you must be the slave of the others—28 like the Son of Man, who did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life to redeem many people.

 


 24 When the other ten disciples heard about this, they became angry with the two brothers.

 
When the ten disciples heard what they are discussing about, they were upset with James and John for trying to grab the two most important positions because all of them wanted to be the greatest and wanted to sit on the left and right of the throne. There is a certain degree of division occurred among the disciples. This shows how longing and striving for position, power and praise quickly ruins relationship in the body of Christ and creates disunity and division.
 

25 So Jesus called them all together and said, you know that the rulers of the heathen have power over them, and the leaders have complete authority.

 
When Jesus saw that they were upset, He called all the apostles together in a nice way to teach them an important lesson. He said that in the Gentile world, the Gentile rulers exercise authority and tyrannize the people under him, they exercise arbitrary power over the people. Such honors are customary among nations. Whoever rules the country raise their favorites to posts of trust and power and they give authority to some over others. It used to denote that the manners in which human government are constituted. It used to denote that the matter in which human governments are constituted.  (Heathen or Gentiles – are all who were not Jews)
 
But God's Kingdom is established in different manner. All are to be on a level; the rich, the poor, the learned, the unlearned, the bond, the free are to be equal. The most distinguished is the one who shows humility.
 

26 This, however, is not the way it shall be among you. If one of you wants to be great, you must be the servant of the rest;

 
Jesus told his disciples wanting to be great that they should not be the same with Gentiles on how they treat each other. He also told them that if a person must be willing to be great (important or popular), that person must be willing to let someone else be their first priority. Jesus said that greatness among the saints is not like what the Gentile rulers are doing to the people under them. He taught that the greatest person in God's Kingdom is the servant of all. Authority is not given to self-importance, ambition or respect, but for the service of God and His creations.
 
There are two kinds of greatness:
 
1.            Greatness associated with one's position
  
If you are with the world, the great man is one who is more powerful or more important wealthy and popular. Whenever he goes, he has aides and assistants with him to follow his orders. He is given VIP treatment and receives special favors whenever he goes. People regard him with respect because of his rank. He never stoops to anything menial or not important. There are always others to do that for him. For the world, the true greatness lies in controlled use of power or success from hard work. Most men of the world are interested only in greatness as for as their position is concerned.
 
2.            Greatness linked with one's personal character
    
If you are with the Lord, greatness is measured by the extent to which we serve rather than the extent to which we are served. The great man is the one who stoops to become a slave for others. No service is too menial. He does not expect any special treatment or thanks. If Jesus stooped so low to serve us (remember when Jesus washed disciples feet?) why should we think it beneath our dignity to serve others?
 
In Jesus Kingdom, greatness is found in serving. It is never to be found in position or power or in the praise and opinion of men, but in servant – like service to others.
 
According to William Arthur Ward – greatness is not found in possession, power, position or prestige. It is discovered in goodness, humility, service and character. One of the greatest hindrances to service or servant – living, is the desire for some form of exaltation – position, praise, prestige and power, man's impatience and his desire to be served now. If you are going to become greatest among Jesus followers, we are going to serve our family Kingdom members. What if we forget? Jesus gave us the cross to remind us that the path of obedience, the path to greatness, the path to glory is found in serving others.
 
The Christian realizes that positional greatness without greatness of character is worthless. It is what's inside a person that counts. In the world's thinking you rise to greatness but in Jesus teaching, you descend to greatness.
           
 
27 and if one of you wants to be first, you must be the slave of the others—

 
Jesus described leadership that instead of using people, we are to serve them. The mission of Jesus was to serve others and to give his life away. A real leader must have a servants' heart and a servant leaders appreciate other's worth.
 
There are two words here used in revealing just exactly what consist true greatness.

1.                Servant / minister (verse 26)

2.                Slave (verse 27)
 
Servant comes from the Greek word diakono meaning an attendant, to run an errand.
 
A servant             - is characterized no so much a person to be    despised, but someone without right.

                                - submits himself to the will of his master.

                                - is one who serves, or does serves, voluntarily or on compulsion, a person who is employed by another for menial offices or for other labor.
 
Minister – a servant. The original word is deacon. A word meaning a servant of any kind, one especially who served at a table, and in the New Testament, one who serves the church. Preaching the gospel are called ministers because they are servants of God.

For Christians, servant means submission to God first, and then submission to one another.
 
Slave is the literal meaning of doulos which means a bond slave and the Lord here plainly teaches us that the highest service is that of a bond slave. Slave was forced into service. He is someone who really has no rights and no honor. The whole purpose of a slave is to serve his or her master. In other words, our purpose is to serve Jesus. Our whole being should be directed to the cause of Christ, and the way we do that is by serving other people. Our primary mission is to minister to people not to be admired by them. These were the two lowest positions in society. Yet Jesus said to be a servant and a slave was to be "great" and "first."
            
"Servant in our English New Testament usually represents the Greek doulos (bondslave). Sometimes it means diakonos (deacon or minister); this is strictly accurate for doulos and diakonos are synonyms. Both words denote a man, who is not at his own disposal but is his master's purchased property. Bought to serve his master's needs, to be at his beck and call every moment, the slaves' sole business is to do as he is told. When the New Testament speaks of ministering to the saints, it means not primarily preaching to them but devoting time, troubles, and substance to giving them all the practical help possible." (James Packer, your Father Loves you, Harold Shaw Publishers, 1986)
 
So, the idea that lies back of greatness from our Lords' word is a picture of a person:

1.            Who is serving others

2.            Who is involved in work, that is for the benefit of others

3.            Who is a person owned by God
 


28 like the Son of Man, who did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life to redeem many people.

 
Another word for redeem is ransom. Ransom came from the Greek word "lutron." It is a redemption price for a slaves' freedom. It also means the price of release, a word that was often used for the money paid for the release of a slave. Jesus told his disciples that He did not come for people to serve Him. He told them that He came to serve and to give his life away for all people. His disciples did not understand what Jesus was talking about. They could not even imagine what was going to happen. Jesus always told his disciples that he must die, and it is only here that He told them why – to redeem all people from the bondage of sin and death. The disciples thought that as long as Jesus was alive, He could save them. But Jesus revealed that only His death could save them and the world.
 
IN CONCLUSION:

How can we achieve true greatness?

1.            Faith should not be mingled with great selfishness. (verse 20-21)

2.            Closeness to Christ requires willingness to suffer with Him. (verse 22-23)

3.            Greatness is not a matter of authority and control but of humility and service. (verse 24-28)
 
Jesus wants us to humble ourselves and think about others. He does not want us to boast or brag. He wants us to care for others and accept them. Jesus showed us how to be humble by His example. Remember that He was in Heaven with God before He came to earth as a baby but instead of being proud; He became a servant and helped others. Even more, Jesus submitted Himself on the cross to die for all our sins. That's real humility. We should care for others in the same way Jesus really died on the cross. He did not die because of something wrong that He had done, He took our place instead. The best news is that Jesus did not stay dead. Because He is alive, we can go to heaven and be with Him one day!
        
Are we living our lives expecting others to serve us? Do we view those around us as opportunities to serve both Christ and others? Are we close – fisted or open handed? Let's follow the example that Christ set for us. Let's serve one another.
 
Martin Luther King Jr. was a Baptist minister and president of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, and was the most prominent African-American leader in the civil rights movement of the 1950s and 1960s. His real name was Michael Luther King and was changed in honor of the sixteenth – century German church reformer Martin Luther.

 Martin Luther gives the definition of greatness. It means that everybody can be great because everybody can serve.
 
You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and your verb agree to serve; you don't have to know about Plato and Aristotle to serve. You don't have to know Einstein's theory of relativity to serve. You don't have to know the second theory of thermodynamics in physics to serve. You only need a heart full of grace, a soul generated by love. And you can be that servant. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
MENTORING RELATIONSHIP
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfil the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)
Presented by: Ps Bayani P. Esguerra
 
Do you want to finish well with the following qualities of character?
·         Integrity
·         Respect
·         Empathy
·         Lack of blame
·         Humility
·         Emotional mastery
·         Responsibility
·         Accountability
·         Self confidence
·         Courage
·         Focus on the whole
 
MENTORING is a relational process between a mentor, who knows or has experienced something and transfers that something like, resources of wisdom, information, experience, confidence, insight, relationships, status, character, etc., and a mentee, at an appropriate time and manner, so that it facilitates development and empowerment.
 
THREE TYPES OF MENTORING:
1.       UPWARD MENTORING
Upward mentor is someone who has gone before and can give direction  and perspective, as well as accountability and stimulus to persevere. He is a knowledgeable and experienced guide who teaches (and learns) through a commitment to the mutual growth of both mentee and mentor. He is a caring, thoughtful, and humane facilitator who provides access to people, places, experiences, and resources outside the mentee’s routine environment. He is also a role model who exemplifies in word and deed what it means to be an ethical, responsible, and compassionate human being. He is as well as a trusted ally, or advocate, who works with (not for) the mentee and on behalf of the mentee’s best interests and goals.
 
Why need an upward mentoring?
·         In the early stages of ministry and leadership development, an upward mentor is needed:
·         To establish foundations in a mentee’s life
·         To discover mentee’s gifts
·         To find appropriate ministry
 
In the middle stage where plateauing in one’s career, ministry, and spiritual life often takes place, an upward mentor provides the mentee with periodic empowerment (ministry and spiritual). Upward mentor ensure continual development in transitional or new ministry times, and even throughout the mentee’s lifetime.
 
Do you have an upward mentor, someone who mentors you? If you do, good for you! If you don’t have an upward mentor, make sure you have one before you do any ministry from this time.
 
2.       DOWNWARD MENTORING
It is a primary means for helping develop the capacity, commitment, and values that will enable the next generation to serve God faithfully.
 
Why need a downward mentoring?
Downward mentors:
·         Inspire ideals.
·         Shake a mentee’s complacency, renew mentee’s convictions, refreshingly keep them on their toes, and multiply their ministry for God’s kingdom
·         Tests mentees’ flexibility in developing approaches to familiar problems.
·         As mentors lived with integrity, they force a special kind of accountability that checks mentees’ consistency and integrity.
 
Do you have a downward mentee, a person who you mentor? If you don’t have an downward mentee, be responsible to find one!
THREE TYPES OF CO-MENTORS:
1.       THE ACQUAINTANCE
 
The acquaintance is on the far side of the continuum. They are everywhere! You meet them in almost every sphere of activity. They come in every size, shape,colour and personality. Some you see once in a while, others daily, and still others only at specific events. They come to you as neighbors, colleagues, relatives, team mates, fellow church members, and numerous other sources. They would seem unimportant but is quite the contrary.
 
Benefits in an acquaintance relationship
·         You exchange basic information with acquaintance.
·         Acquaintances are information sources that help you learn about your shared world in which you live, work and play.
·         They help you understand situations by passing on facts, observations and experiences.
Limitations in an acquaintance relationship 
·         You rarely know more about each other than what you see and pick up through casual observation.
·         There is a low degree of commitment and trust in an acquaintance relationship because of the unknowns about one another.
·         Although most relationship begins in acquaintance relationship, most will stay at this level.
 
2.       THE FRIEND
The friend is the next level of peer relationship. You know much more about people in this category. You begin to reveal more about yourself—interests, thinking and feeling about things, concerns, likes and dislikes.
 
Benefits in a friend relationship
Because personal effort and time are invested with friends, they have more time with one another, so that this relationship deepens with trust, openness, and commitment.
·         Significant empowerment results in friend relationship
·         Friends can expect God to work in and through their relationship.
 
Hindrances in establishing genuine friends’ relationship
·         Self-centeredness and Individualism—which tells us that we must make it on our own and that seeking another’s help is a sign of weakness
·         Fear of being vulnerable to another person is to most a frightening experience
·         Pride—which prevents people from exposing their inner life so that it would not be revealed that they do not “have it all together.”
 
Where do you meet peers who could become friends? 
·         In the pool of acquaintances God has placed around you in all your spheres of involvement especially those spheres of involvements that are most important to you.
·         In projects you do with people who hold common interests.
·         In one-on-one time with people in church, work place or in other context that you are able to discuss your struggles and personal pursuits or goals.
 
3.       THE CLOSE BUDDY
The “close buddy” type of peer relationship is a special gift from God. To have a close buddy in your relational network brings tremendous blessing and strength not found in any other relationship. In the close buddy relationship, chemistry and compatibility is realized when a mutual appreciation and respect emerges. Close buddies don’t see differences as problems, but rather as complimenting strengths in the relationship. As friends discover and affirm common goals and values, and openness and trust grow, the opportunity to move the relationship to a close buddy materializes.
 
With a mutual commitment to the pursuit of a deeply meaningful goal, a sense of responsibility for one another that will lift each buddy to a new level will be reached. Close buddy relationship provides accountability for integrity and inner-life growth, which is vital for those who desire to finish well. This relationship is characterized by unrestricted openness, trust, commitment, and a high sense of mutual accountability or sense of responsibility for one another.
 
ESSENTIALS OF PEER CO-MENTORING
 
1.       INTERNAL PEER CO-MENTOR
 
This is found within the context of a group or organization. Enjoys relationship within their group and spend most of their time there which makes it easy to develop peer relationship. Internal peers know the same things and provide a safe place from confidential sharing that only members of the same group can have.
 
2.       EXTERNAL PEER CO-MENTOR
This is found outside the context of a group or organization. External peers provide an objective perspective that will check tendencies toward narrowness often held by a group.
 
You’re serving as a Peer Mentor When . . .
·         You help your peers to achieve the potential within themselves that is hidden to others—and perhaps even to the peers themselves.
·         You share stories with peers about your own career/profession/ministry and the ways you overcame obstacles similar to theirs.
·         You help peers overcome their fear of a situation or a superior and help them to express themselves.
·         You help a new peer understand a particularly tough bureaucratic rule or procedure—and you explain it in a way that he/she is willing to come back to you to learn about other difficult regulations or procedures.
·         You help a new peer understand how to use resources that are available for his/her improvements.
·         You discern more about a peer’s work/ministry performance than what they tell you.
 
INGREDIENTS OF CO-MENTORING
1.       FIT
Peers co-mentors must accept and appreciate each other.  An attraction to each other should be apparent to both. Even with certain differences, each will feel a sense that there is a person I like and want to get to know, which reflects a clear compatibility. Sometimes this chemistry may not be there at first, but it will eventually develop if there is genuine respect for one another.
 
2.       FUN
Co-mentors should enjoy being with one another, and if co-mentors have families of their own, both their spouses and children enjoys occasional get together. Co-mentors fun time can develop through some commonly shared hobby, interest, or discipline that provides a springboard to acceptance. Co-mentors view leisure time is just as important as serious time. In developing peer co-mentoring, co-mentors enjoy meals together, participate in athletic endeavours, learn about each other’s hobbies, and just hang around together sometimes even without an agenda—something that is easy for friends to do yet tough for task oriented people.
 
3.       EMPOWERMENT
Empowerment in co-mentoring is experienced if the relationship centers on openness, trust, commitment, and confidentiality. This openness allows you both to spot problems or potential problems and to intervene so as to empower. Co-mentors are willing to be transparent with each other on important issues.
 
Proximity and continuity are present in the relationship, which means that co-mentors are available to each other and have regular and ongoing times together (i.e., once a week, once every two weeks or once a month depending on what the co-mentors would agree on).
 
HOW TO ESTABLISH PEER CO-MENTORING RELATIONSHIPS
We believe that peer mentors are given by God. Occasionally, you will be able to identify a given need in your life and will seek a special person, perhaps a co-mentor, who can meet that need. But normally that function will be provided by an upward mentor. The nature of co-mentoring focuses on relationship, and not so much on need-centered function. Because that is so, you do not always even know what kind of person you need in a co-mentoring relationship.
 
You must depend upon God, then, to provide you with people who will become co-mentors. You can be alert. You can know that you need co-mentors. You can beginto move along the friendship mentor continuum. But in the end it will be God who guides you to those who will be co- mentors.
 
A simple guideline for entering into co-mentoring is common-sense notion based on this conviction.
 
FIVE STEPS TOWARD ESTABLISHING PEER CO-MENTOR RELATIONSHIPS
1.       PRAY AND SEEK. Actively trust God for needed relationships. Look for them in your spheres of involvement.
2.       MAKE CONTACTS. Explore chemistry. Have fun together. Do things that will be foundational to relationship building. Discover shared values and desires.
3.       SHARE DESIRES and set expectations for a co-mentoring relationship.
4.       GIVE TIME. Prioritize your schedule and activities so you have adequate time to build a relationship that moves deeper toward empowerment.  The more your spheres of involvement overlap, the greater the exposure and amount of time you can spend together, which are key to relational development.
 
Do you have peer co–mentors, inside and outside of WIN? If you don’t have peer co-mentoring relationship, establish it as soon as possible.
 CONCLUSION:
 
Today’s success—oriented, individualistic society discourages those close relationships that we need in order to grow and finish well. The higher a leader rises, often the harder it is to find co-mentoring. Yet the higher a leaders rises, the greater the pitfalls and the more important it becomes to develop accountable relationships with peers. Such accountability relationships do not just happen. They are given by God to those who sincerely desire it. So that when it is given, it must be deliberately developed if you desire to reach the level of freedom and vulnerability you need, to bring commitment to each other’s best.
 
We must therefore aim for an empowering co-mentoring relationship, that will not only help each other develop in many ways like in competencies, but will also serve as preventive rather than curative in leading people to finish well. This is possible because of the special relationship based on trust; openness; commitment, and confidentiality, co-mentors can correct each other of tendencies towards failure in all of the following areas: family, power, pride, sexual relationships, and attitude towards the use of money, etc.
 
REVIEW:
 
You need to connect with someone in a mentoring relationship because:
 
·         Mentors give perspective at crucial time in your development.
·         Mentors are often aware of the need for renewal of experiences and can help you interpret them.
·         Mentors can detect and warn against negative or sinful patterns or abuse of power and authority in your life, or the opposite which is shying away from opportunity.
·         Peers and mentors can stimulate and provide accountability for your personal life, growth and intimacy with Christ.
·         Peers and mentors can encourage you to develop the right disciplines and new perspectives
·         Peers and mentors can model values and a positive learning attitude.
·         Mentors can spot signs of plateauing and stimulate learning.
·         Peers and mentors lead and cheer each other to finish well.
 
BRO. BAYANI P. ESGUERRA
Director,
Ministerial Care Department
Word International Ministries, Philippines
Tel. no.: (02)8938667  (02)8931668
Mobile: +639178371507
 
SOURCES:
1.        CONNECTING, The Mentoring Relationship You Need to Succeed in Life, Paul D. Stanley & J. Robert Clinton, 1992
2.        Mentor Training Curriculum, National Mentoring Working Group convened by United Way of America and One to One, 1991, in One to One “Mentoring 101” Curriculum, The California Mentoring Partnership, Mentoring and Communication, Listening Barriers and Skills